But the results of the entire sample call into question this promise (for divorce but not separation). Reinforcing the need to replicate programs like MFIP for families with two parents in a variety of settings before drawing conclusions about the contribution such strategies can make, to strengthen marriage. The initial results of the MFIP were largely enticing because the MFIP was not specifically aimed at influencing the marriage. Divorce, or separation. But it appears to have had a large impact on the likelihood that some two-parent families will stay together. Suggesting that strategies to address the vagaries of poverty can promote marital stability by reducing the economic burden on poor families.
Redirecting funds to save marriages by reducing divorce and illegitimate children will not only benefit children and society. It will also save money in the long run. Set a goal to reduce the number of divorces among parents with children by a third over the next decade and implement marriage-supporting training and mentoring programs to teach couples to develop conflict resolution skills and improve marital relationships. Require couples with minor children to complete divorce training and a mediated partnership plan before filing for divorce. End “no-fault” divorce for parents with children under 18 by requiring them to prove that marriage will continue to cause serious harm to children.
Effects of Divorce on Adult Children
Again, this remedy is not unique to divorced children: studies show that it is just as effective for people who had divorced parents, as it is for people whose parents were not divorced. In extreme circumstances, a child may feel separation relief, if divorce means less argument and less stress. Although many couples stay together until their children grow up, divorce is hard on children of all ages and can negatively affect relationships between parents and adult children.
One study found, for example, that adult daughters may be more likely to blame their fathers for the divorce, and that changing family dynamics—such as newly divorced mothers becoming more dependent on their children—can also negatively impact their families and children. The pain may linger long after the marriage has ended, even if both agree that it is better to leave. Even in the case of a bitter divorce, when a lot of unpleasant feelings remain at the end, those warm feelings that you had for your ex do not just go away, especially since they go through the same difficulties as you. Many who get divorced tell how often mutual friends are lost in the process.
Divorce Blame game…
When an older couple divorces, perhaps after many years of marriage. Theories and rumors can swirl around them as extended family, friends, colleagues, neighbors. And casual acquaintances struggle to make sense of the breakup. They may blame one parent for the dissolution of the marriage. Or resent one or both parents because of a family disorder. Because many marital conflicts can be related to parental stress. Children often feel responsible for their parents’ divorce․ Feeling that their behavior contributed in some way.
Relationships between children and parents worsen after divorce. The breakdown of marriage creates distance between parents and children, even in relation to children living in married but dysfunctional families. Divorced parents also report a significant decrease in satisfaction with the relationship of their former spouses, with their parents, children; although divorce of parents tends to affect the relationship between child and parent of the opposite sex more than child and parent of the same sex divorced fathers, especially non-custodial fathers, do not live with their children. Adults who have experienced divorce as children may have more relationship difficulties. That is, children whose parents are divorcing witness negative family interactions before the divorce and also experience many life transitions and strained family relationships after the divorce.
Post Divorce family dynamic and behavioral problems
However, existing literature indicates that divorce is a stressful process affecting divorced people, their children, and their parents. After a divorce, about 20-25% of children in divorced families have long-term adjustment problems, compared with about 10% of children in families with a first marriage (Hetherington and Stanley-Hagan 2000). It is useful to think of this as the adjustment of children in a particular family structure (eg, first-married families, divorced families, foster families) varies on a continuum from very poor to very poor adjustment. Children and adolescents do better after a divorce than their peers living in families with a first marriage.
Furthermore, this line of reasoning suggests that many of the negative consequences for children in divorced families may be related to traumatic experiences and processes that have nothing to do with divorce per se. Regardless of how it happens, divorce affects children psychologically, physically, academically, and behaviorally. The consequences of divorce affect the children of couples in both the short and long term.
Effect of Divorce on Family Economy
After a divorce, a couple often experiences consequences such as decreased levels of happiness. Changes in economic status, and emotional problems. Divorce after a long marriage usually results in emotional hardship, financial hardship, loss of friendship. Loss of contact with children and grandchildren, and stressful vacations. This suggests that people who have been married for a long time are more likely to get divorced. The age range of divorced couples is larger in the younger age range (20-30 years old); more often break up during the first few years of marriage.
In other words, young couples are more likely to divorce than their Baby Boomer peers.
In addition, people with divorced parents marry disproportionately with people with divorced parents. And couples in which both partners are divorced children are more likely to divorce. Then the couples in which it occurs, just one person. Some studies have shown that divorced children are less enthusiastic about the idea of marriage and less hesitant about dissolving a marriage. Others indicate that they may have a more honest assessment of what can go wrong in a romantic relationship and therefore may be particularly attuned to the importance of choosing a partner.
Adjusting after divorce.
Initially, men tended to view divorce more negatively than women, although men tended to remarry faster than women. After a divorce, women experience less stress and generally adjust better than men. The reasons for this are women are more likely to notice marital problems and feel relieved when those problems go away. Women are more likely than men to rely on social support systems and others for help. And women are more likely than men to get a boost in self-esteem when adding new roles to life.
Common reasons for divorce
Other causes are drug/alcohol abuse or emotional distress, lack of financial support. And infidelity, while the main common causes of divorce in the Gulf countries are couples from different backgrounds. Families have many couples in arranged marriages. And early marriages for younger age groups. Divorce is also common in Western countries; nearly half of marriages end in divorce. Divorce is usually preceded by an emotional or psychological separation and then ends with a legal divorce. But most relationships begin and continue with an emotional divorce. Some men can get through a divorce in a few months, while others take years.
